I am regularly asked to give advice on a range of topics and am even regarded by some as an expert in my fields.  Prior to writing this I watched a video at Career Site Advisor where I was asked to speak about job interviews and how to do well in them.  I was rather pleased by what I said and the guidance I gave.

I then reflected upon a meeting I attended yesterday that was rather important to me.  As I drove away afterwards I knew that I had missed some rather important points, had failed to effectively communicate ideas that I felt were key and had made some incorrect assumptions about what would be covered.  And today, as I watched the video, already angry with myself for my poor handling of the meeting, I realised that I had failed to follow good advice that I was very happily dispensing to others on how to prepare for and conduct a meeting.  Not just incompetent – but also a hypocrite!

As I mull over the meeting and the likelihood that the outcome will not be what I want, it makes me realise how big the gap can be between knowing and doing.  And worse still, how one can deliver good advice and yet not follow it oneself.

I know that many people who read my blog are job-seekers.  It is easy to regard one’s activity as preparing yet another application, yet another conversation or yet another interview.  A piece of advice that I will endeavour to follow is: if it is not important, don’t bother doing it; if it is important, make the maximum effort to do it properly.

And if you spot me not following my own advice please feel free to remind me and call me a hypocrite!

All the best


4 comments on “Hypocrisy

  1. Richard,

    Sharing this personal account was probably harder than most blog entries you write. Accountability is a noble aim yet it’s easy to be found wanting. Owning up to your shortcomings is few people’s idea of fun so thank you for sharing.

    Your post shows me 3 important lessons:

    1. The importance of establishing standards
    2. The importance of holding oneself accountable to those standards
    3. The necessary (cathartic?) process of admitting failure in order to improve and avoid making the same mistakes in the future.

    Rather than let this “eat you” over the weekend you’ve given us a terrific post to read. Cheers!

  2. Aboodi Shabi says:

    Nice piece, Richard.

    And, I think we are all hypocrites, or at best inconsistent. You can be sure that working as a coach, I regularly have to face my own hypocrisy.

    I think it’s helpful to see it as being that we teach what we need to learn, and that we are all learners. And, that learning doesn’t stop – or at least it shouldn’t if we want to stay on top of our game.


  3. Ah, Richard, sounds like you’ve just had one of those joys of being human moments. Good post. I reckon the “personal retrospective” is an important learning experience for us all… You’re in good company – I share the “so much easier to say it than do it” sometimes too.

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